In recent weeks I have read all kinds of articles about spanking. One article cites a study that says spanking lowers IQ’s. Another article talks about the fact that spanking is outlawed in Sweden. The latter article talks about it as positive, while also citing that some children are out of control as a result.
This is a very controversial issue. There are those who do not spank or use any form of discipline, and their children are wild and out-of-control. There are others who do not spank with their hands, but they spank with their words using put-downs and shaming. There are some parents who call “beating” a spanking. Then there are other parents, who balance love and limits and never use spanking and have well-disciplined children.
I’ll bet most of you taking this survey, can remember your own times of getting spanked or disciplined. I sure can! Think about that and your own views about spanking and then go to www.atiseminars.org and take the survey about spanking.
I believe that all children need structure and limits as well as love and independence. They need to be treated with respect and dignity. And they need to be taught how to treat others with respect and dignity too.
Have a great day.
Maryln
P.S. ~ Here are some articles about spanking:
http://news.yahoo.com/s/csm/20091005/wl_csm/osmack
http://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/Cp98D%20CP%20%20IQ%20world-wide.pdf
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
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4 comments:
I feel that most of the time when a parent spanks, it is because they may be frustrated or have no other method to discipline. If you can turn around and smile (because you are NOT angry) then I believe it is okay. This may spark your child and may realize that they pushed the parent too far.
Spanking is NOT acceptable in a daycare setting. This is why there is a time out spot.
My parents never spanked me. Instead they disaplined me by somtimes taking away a favorite toy for a couple days and telling me what i did was unacceptible or somtimes just having a discussion with me about my choice telling me they were disappointed. I believe that those kinds of disapline work just fine.
I think spanking is a last resort discipline method but may be effective for some children. Children are individuals and respond in different ways to discipline. Some children are just as impacted by a talk where they are made aware they have done something that is "not okay". Others are very motivated by removing privileges. I spanked my children when there was a repeated offense that was dangerous and tried not to spank them without letting them know why. Have your emotions in check first.
I don't generally spank as a means of discipline. However, I have spanked both of my children when they did something that was either dangerous to themselves or to another. My discipline is based on the loss of privileges. I teach my children that there are consequences for their actions and taking/accepting responsibility for their actions. I also teach my children there are rewards for good/positive behavior as well.
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