I have a precious 11 year old cousin who lives far away in another country and is learning to speak English as a second language. He has been skyping me to chat. He was telling me about one of his teachers, and said he hated her class because she shouted. I asked him what he does when she shouts, and he wrote to me, “I mad on her in quiet.” He’s angry inside but doesn’t express it.
It made me think about all the children who may get upset when they hear shouting even if it’s not directed at them. Are they angry too? Does it affect their learning? You bet.
Children listen better when you use a low voice. The lower your voice, the more they quiet down to hear what you have to say.
Have an awesome day. You are a difference maker.
Maryln
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
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8 comments:
This is so true, shouting only fuels the issue instead of disarming it and those involved in the issue. This goes for at home at well. It is difficult to stop yelling once you've developed the habbit. Even grown ups need cues given to let them know when to change their behavior.
Maryln-our enty today was right on and an affirmation to me. I run a preschool/childcare and I had to let a teacher go because she was always yelling. I tried working with her but it didn't help. The parents were so thankful that she's gone and the classroom is calm and peaceful again.
I love the video... Marty always impresses me when I see him with the students. He is very dynamic and it's contagious.
I agree 100%. I run a childcare center. I come from a big, loud shouting family. As an adult and having a son with ADHD I have learned through much trial and error, the best way to communicate with him or with any child who is having difficulty is have a calm and soothing voice. Sometimes even going so far as to whisper in the ear can do wonders.
I wonder if you have any resources on stopping shouting. I use a quiet voice and some days the children simply will not stop and listen. I have tried dinging the magic silver wand I got at one of your conferences, and this worked the first few times, but now it doesn't even get them to blink. I tried whispering, using a consistent calm voice, but still sometimes the children are not hearing me,a nd if it gets unsafe, I have to raise my voice to be heard. Where am I going wrong? I've worked with children for 20 years and I just want to use the secret other teachers have. Please help! When I ask the children to use quiet voices, they very rarely listen. I always follow through and never "threaten". What I say I mean, and they know it, yet I still have a very difficult time getting them to listen to me.
Hi Lynda,
Your voice can be a powerful tool. Here are some other things you can do. Make sure you are enthusiastic at times. Alternate your voice so that it is sometimes softer and sometimes louder (not shouting). Be dramatic. Kids love drama. Have an "I am in charge" attitude. That transmits itself to the class. Use props like "talk to the wall or a puppet" and have them answer you. Children will listen to the prop sometimes more than to a teacher
Practice speaking in front of a mirror. Ask yourself, "Would I listen?" That's a really good one.
Hope this is helpful. Don't give up. Keep practicing until you get it.
Hi Lynda,
Your voice can be a powerful tool. Here are some other things you can do. Make sure you are enthusiastic at times. Alternate your voice so that it is sometimes softer and sometimes louder (not shouting). Be dramatic. Kids love drama. Have an "I am in charge" attitude. That transmits itself to the class. Use props like "talk to the wall or a puppet" and have them answer you. Children will listen to the prop sometimes more than to a teacher
Practice speaking in front of a mirror. Ask yourself, "Would I listen?" That's a really good one.
Hope this is helpful. Don't give up. Keep practicing until you get it.
There are other was to get your class attention. Sing what you want. I can't tell you how many times I sing to my kids and they ALWAYS listen. They even sing back to me! Another great way to get children to settle down is to praise a child who IS doing what you want. ex. 'Linda, I love the way you are sitting on the carpet. You are ready to learn.' Then all of a sudden I hear...Ms. Tonya, I'm ready to learn too. and so on.
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