Many children are being raised by people that are not their parents. These often are loving people who, for whatever reason, have to assume the responsibility of being a parent.
I have worked with children who have been seriously abused and molested, and they still want to be with their parents and dream that their parents will love them. As you and I know, that is not always possible. But I think that every child deserves love. Children deserve people in their lives with whom they feel safe, people who have their best interests at heart, people who will protect them.
But children still want to be able to use those magic words, “momma,” and “daddy.” Surrogate parents can tack on those words to their own names, “Grandma momma,” “Auntie Jean Momma,” “Mom Kathy,” & “Poppa Josh.”
I have been blessed in my own life to have had my own dad who passed away when I was young, and then I had another other dad figure step into my life, “Poppa James.” It didn’t take anything away from the love I have for my dad to have another special loving father figure in my life. It added to it.
This is the month of love, February, so it’s ok to expand the love in this special month and be all that you can be in name or in action to those who need it.
Have a great day. You are a difference maker.
Maryln
Monday, February 8, 2010
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4 comments:
What a wonderful and powerful concept. I hope readers will pass this suggestion along to people in these situations in an appropriate and loving way. Children's sense of connection and belonging are vital to the forming of their self esteem. This concept is so simple and has the potential to change lives. Thank you Marilyn!
Thanks for sharing todays message. It really rings true.
When a child was having a difficult time and kept calling out for her momma and we had tried a lot of different things, I said, "I'll be momma number 2 - okay?" She said okay. So the next time she cried out for momma, I said, "Here is momma number 2 to give you hugs." It worked! And the the crying out stopped shortly after that. Anne
Thanks for all your great comments. The last one brought tears of joy to my eyes. There are many ways to be a mom.
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